Hope for men

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Thank you for your perspective. I have often wondered what it looks like from the other side of online dating. There is constant scamming from profiles of twenty-one year olds with pouty lips and huge breasts who just happen to love older men. Pretty easy to spot. It is harder when they are age appropriate. Typically the scammer has a specific look and an unfinished profile.

I get your sentiment that a life partner is less important than it used to be. I remember my therapist advising that I wait a year before dating and thinking she was nuts. Very wise words at this point. True also that most people's finances are a disaster. A part of the problem in my marriage was my unwillingness to compromise on financial choices. I wouldn't let her use a credit card and insisted on living within our means. It was a constant fight over vacationing and eating at expensive restaurants.

I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend has lung cancer. I can attest that we live in a miracle age of medicine and anything is possible. You also deserve a ton of respect for hanging in there at this point knowing how hard it can be. Praying for him.