I was with my ex for 19 years she is very good at sounding convincing. I remember this one time we went on a cruise with 3 other couples. The one mom was “copying” my ex and she didn’t like it. Example: ordering the same drink a few times. So she convinced the other 2 families she was crazy and a loser and the other 2 families stopped talking to this family on the cruise. That is how convincing she is.
This, BTW? Sounds sociopathic and that's why I recommended you read The Sociopath Next Door. I'm betting you will be able to come up with other examples that you just "got used to" or were afraid to cross her on. I mean, why on earth didn't you confront her about that mean girl stuff with the other couple? I know - because she would have made you pay for crossing her if you contradicted her, or said in front of the other couples that the other couple were not that bad.
I know you miss the "good years" of your marriage but I'm guessing you'll look back and start to see more and more stuff that you glossed over at the time.
