It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Wolfman]

A lot of great advice here. Definitely a big mess. I am trying to balance all of this. This might be a long post since I will try to address everyone.

LH- you are right, things happened fast. I did not Intend for that to happen, but it did. I know I have made mistakes and I am trying to balance it back. Honestly, this is one of the biggest reasons I did not want d from the beginning, the KIDS. I was willing to suck it up for them. It didn’t work, fine. I moved on and yes I missed some of the red flags. But I am here and trying my best to make everyone happy. Probably biggest mistake.

Dawn - I am working hard on trying to be the adult. You said it yourself, the kids took to you easily. I am sure there were tough times, but it has been extremely difficult since day 1 especially with my d. Look I know you say take the focus off the ex, but when she deliberately tried to sabotage my relationship with my kids it’s hard. Not speculation COPD hard facts of things she has said to my kids and admitted in front of the therapist. Trust me I hear you loud and clear I can only focus on what I can control, but I am also doing damage control. When I start to make gains she takes another step to ruin it.

Dejavu - I continue to talk to my gf about the relationship. It’s a work in progress. I agree that she doesn’t get it that they won’t just like her in a month or 2 or 3. But she thought that. Maybe bad use she is young, maybe her expectations were high, she also feels like she hasn’t done anything wrong so why should they dislike her. These are things I talk to her about. It’s not about her, it’s about what she represents. I am also confused. Some of you are saying to not force it, some are saying just spend time with my s, then how do I bring them together? I am at a loss.

Kml - I did hire an new attorney and he looked at it and said it was nothing for me to worry about. Made me feel a little better.

CW warrior - That is exactly what I am trying to do, force “happy family”. I don’t know what else to do. I am constantly trying to talk to both and bring them together. You asked me this: Can you accept your GF may not love your S like her flesh and blood and doesn't want to go to the trouble of bonding with him? She's telling you she doesn't. Does that work for you or not? I can’t accept that. And it’s going to be an issue for me. I am trying to be patient because my situation has been extremely difficult.

HaWho - I can’t communicate with d. My ex put that in the order. My s and I do a lot of things together. Couple of weeks ago him and I went upstate with some friends and gf stayed home. She wanted me to have some bonding time with my s. It was great. She has no problem everyday when I am with my s.

More to come. Crazy last night. Real quick, order says I can’t see or communicate with d. I also now have CPS coming to my home and ex wants exchange of s to be done at precinct.