It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Dawn70]

You know, I had a lot to say then I read LH's post and thought, yep, that sums it up nicely.

Your son is 10. TEN. Your gf is, presumably, an adult. I get that she is pregnant and working and all, but the onus is on her (and you) to play the adult roles, not to expect a 10 year old to "get it". Listen, man, being a step-parent is HARD. It just is, even in the best of circumstances, and I don't think it is a big secret to anyone that you are definitely not in the best of circumstances. I have never had children of my own, but I have 5 stepdaughters. 3 are the daughters of my XH and his 1st XW. Those daughters are all adults now, but I have been a part of their life since they were 12, 14, and 16 (they are now 28, 30, and 32). I was lucky that the girls took to me easily and early on and we have a fantastic relationship, but it was WORK. It still is work. You can't just expect to d your XW, get a new girlfriend who is 9 months pregnant, so has been pregnant since early in your relationship, and expect your kids to just go "ok, cool, we're down". That isn't how kids work. To top it off, your own description of your gf makes her sound immature and not well-equipped to handle being a step-parent. Why should she keep trying with your s when he shoots her down and that upsets her and she doesn't want to be upset when she's pregnant? She keeps trying because she is the adult and she realizes that maybe it isn't about her personally, but is about the situation as a whole. Of course she doesn't want to be upset when she's pregnant...no one wants that for her. But, good Lord, man....your whole situation seems like a huge clusterf@#k and you seem to just narrate everything.

As far as the police showing up, maybe I'm naive or I was just lucky in my own D proceedings that it was very amicable, but you seem to blame your XW for everything or say she is always up to stuff, but it seems to me that you must be giving her some sort of ammunition or cops and lawyers would just blow her off. Again, I may just be naive since I didn't experience an acrimonious divorce so if that is the case, I apolgize, but you have to focus on your own side of the street and quit worrying/speculating what your XW is doing. You can't control that, so you are wasting your time and energy working yourself up about something you can do absolutely nothing about.