It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Wolfman]

Well the plot thickens. Yesterday I had my son. So at night I drove him home. While I was driving him home the sheriff showed up at my house looking for me. What is she up to now. They wouldn’t tell my gf anything and just left her a slip for me to call. I have cameras at my home and I saw they had 3 pages of something. What now!!?? Is this for going to her dance and I am “harassing” them? Or it an order to stay away from them? Or a change of custody? Stay tuned for my messed up life. This woman just doesn’t stop. My gf is due in 3 weeks and it’s like she is stepping up the hatred and anger towards us.

I need help with this other issue. My gr works 10 hour days 6 days a week because when she has the baby obviously she won’t be working it will just be me. So she is trying to hustle to make the most to help out. I told her she shouldn’t be working that much considering she is 9 month’s pregnant but she insists. So, when she get home around 6pm she is exhausted. So, she says hello to me and my son and goes and lays in bed. I have been taking care of dinner and we all eat together everytime I have my son. I have noticed my s is becoming distant towards gf now. When she wasn’t pregnant she played Xbox with him, we all shot hoops together, they would have pillow fights, hide and seek etc. But obviously she can’t do some of those things and her working so much and being so pregnant she is exhausted. I explained to my s that because she is pregnant and works a lot it’s hard for her to do all the things she used to do. And that she loves him and cares about him very much. I said to my s you know gf loves you and loves being with you? He shook his head no. I said I understand that you may feel that way because she has not been involved as much, I also said to him that even when he is not there she lays in bed most of the time. (Side note my gf has gained 35 pounds all belly but still a lot of extra weight to carry around.) I want him to understand that’s it’s not just when he is there. Yesterday I decided to take everyone to eat. At first my s looked angry. Gf was trying to talk to him and little by little he started to come “back to normal”. By the end of the night when he was leaving she s to my s where is my hug. He barely put his arms around her (he has hugged her many times in the past) so joking with him she grabbed his arms and put them around her. And then I took him to his moms.
1. My gf is upset that my s barely acknowledges her now. And I talk to her that she needs to be as consistent as possible. But she says why should she keep trying when he keeps shooting her down and that upsets her. And she doesn’t want to feel stressed or upset while she is pregnant. I told her she didn’t have to go and play all those things, but just ask how his day was and what’s new. And that he never says hello or goodbye to her that I have to make him say it.
2. The other problem is his mother. I have to put this in because I think it’s a contributing factor. When gf was so involved with my s my ex actually said to me in front of the kids, that she is always around and never gives me any time with my kids. Which was it true, everytime she would go upstairs for about an hour or 2 so I could have that alone time. I know, I know speculation but I feel like if she is around she will complain my gf is around too much. If she gives us time they she doesn’t care. I know I can’t change what the ex says but I feel it’s a big influence on my s on the way he looks at gf. Honestly I am confused on what to do.

Have any of you gone through this with step kids? Where you are nice and they just continually reject you? Is the “step-parent” continue to try forever? Do you speak with the kids that they have to put effort in too? I didn’t come from divorced parents and literally not a single friend of mine growing up was divorced. So I have no idea how to handle this.