Another issue plaguing me is my family guilting me as to why I am not talking to them about my situation.. I don't want to talk to them about it. It helps them fill a need THEY have that isn't my responsibility. But I can't get them to understand my feelings or accept the boundaries I am trying to set.
Elbereth, that sounds really frustrating, that your family is adding to your stress instead of giving you some calm. I assume there's love and compassion there--mixed in with curiosity and a desire to gossip--have you been as direct with them as you are with us--"It's a rough situation. I have a therapist. What would really help, is a break from thinking about it. Could we talk about something else?" I REALLY appreciated the one mutual friend of my ex-GF and I who never once brought up the breakup in our times together.
Originally Posted by Elbereth
Yea, I need IC again...I'd hope to find someone specific I could feel is what I am looking for, but I just might have to do a few more BetterHelp sessions as a holdover of finding the right one.
There are good therapists online, charging a fraction of their in-office rates. If the initial ones they offer do not have strong Yelp reviews for their in-person practices, ask for more options. Sites like that generally charge you the same whether they match you with a 5-star or 3-star therapist so be sure you get their best. (:
Originally Posted by Elbereth
Just a small update.
H signed the agreement for some of the funds he used towards his affair. Now onto the big D.
