I’m disappointed because I miss you. I hope you change your mind and you know you can always text me if you do. No pressure...I would just like to work on having a good relationship with you regardless of where you live. And...by the way...I will be coming by to get your brother but I will honour your wishes in wanting to stay at your mom’s. Love you lots.
Originally Posted by Wolf
I’m disappointed because I miss you. I hope you change your mind and you know you can always text me if you do. No pressure...I would just like to work on having a good relationship with you regardless. Love you babydoll. No response.
I noticed you took Deja's text but removed "regardless of where you live" and "honour your wishes to stay at your mom's." I'm curious, why did you remove the bit about honoring her boundaries? I wouldn't have asked if you sent a message entirely in your own words, but given the message is so close, the removal likely has meaning.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
When I pulled up the bf and her uncle were there again, I guess to “protect” her.
Makes sense given your tense interactions. What did you do?
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I also emailed the mom that I am supposed to have the kids for the weekend and asked her what she thought. No response. In a separate email asked her to have my d respond to my text.
Documenting the lack of visitation makes sense. I assume this is what your lawyer recommended.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
The new lawyer I reached out to hasn’t got back to me. I am going to have to try some other lawyers. See what happens. Looking forward to everyone’s response.
Yay for seeking good legal representation.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Anyway I sat in the back by myself and watched, I was so proud of her!!! After her last dance I got up to walk out as I was leaving my ex saw me. I was walking down the hotel hallway and at the end of the hallway there is this big mirror. Well in the mirror I see her standing in the hallway recording me as I walk away.
I understand XW's behavior--she's documenting you just as you're documenting her. I don't understand your sneaking into the event. Did D ask you not to attend her competitions or dance? If no, why hide from D? If yes, why ignore her boundaries? If you're unashamed of your behavior, then being recorded is fine!
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Either way I know my ex will put a negative spin on it. If I didn’t go, daddy doesn’t care and even come see you dance. Being there I am bothering her, even though I just kept to myself. Ugh.
Again, focus on D. Your assumption could be right or could be wrong. What you control is how you show up to D. If D enjoyed you being there, XW telling her afterwards "He bothered you!!" wouldn't make it true.
