A year on and standing 2

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Hi Wayfarer, Steve,

I am still visiting the IC but as of now, I think the purpose of what she can do for me is more of a listening ear or someone whom I am able to talk to, knowing much of the details.

At the current stage that I am at, I may be thinking of moving on more by myself as I feel it's hard for me to speak to another IC and repeating everything all over. It's tiring to even recall haha.

From my experience with my current IC, she always prompt me questions which, I have thought over myself and know what my replies are. I am looking for some experience and advices on what I can do now and how perhaps I can move on and embrace a better tomorrow than today.

That's why I feel I am getting much better information and advices here than the time I spent at the IC which most of the time after the session, I walked out, felt like having a drink as I felt drained when she asked me how have things been between me and my wife? How is she? Are we talking or is she still treating me in a hostile manner? Etc. After I narrate, she just went "oh haha that's bad, probably she might be feeling this/that etc". I mean it's really more like listening to what I said and acknowledging my feeling that's all. And every time when I share those details, it's like to go through what happened again.

The reason I am still following up is also because through the same center, I got the ICs for my kids so primarily during my sessions, I will check about the kids well being. Thus at times, I am not looking forward to the session as well and I only meet her up once every 2 months.

Now I am looking at activities or hobby groups that I can join to direction my attention and focus. Something to keep me more busy, feel productive and look forward to. I need to weave back my social life with others that I have given up much over these years as well.