I’m meeting a lot of new people lately because of work. And these kind of questions popped up a lot - are you married? Where does your husband work?
So far I’ve kept it simple - yes, married. Husband works at xxx also.
But inside I really want to scream out “I’m still married by law but we’ve been separated for almost 2 years now and are going through a divorce!! Please consider me single. Got anybody you can introduce me to?”
Of course, it’s kind of odd to say that when you are meeting somebody for the first time. Lol.
I guess it’s an issue of identity and honesty. First, i feel like my standard answer eventually leads to deeper conversations about marriage and family life that if I am trying to avoid talking about my state of marriage, it just gets so awkward for me that I have to talk about it realllly vaguely. Second, I don’t want to my identity to be tethered to this man. Not one little bit. I’m pretty sure ExH is not the most popular guy at work, so it does not serve me well at all to be known as his wife.
I want to be comfortable in telling someone I’m meeting for the first time, “I’m married. But I’m going through a divorce.” Is that a faux pas?
Of course, the ideal thing would be to be divorced already. ExH is taking his sweet time “translating the divorce decree”....
