Also. A big reason for not doing the no contact boundary for anything but kids is because I have said it in the past and drew a line and each time she tests and I fold. I don’t want to do that again until I know I am 100% ready to not buckle to some game attempt to get me to talk. Because I reallt want my words and my actions to be congruent from now on. So I feel better about it but I am not 100% sure I can go straight NC without failing and being sucked into some BS reason to answer a call or something. I’m getting close and I feel that is coming up soon but I don’t want to fire that off and not back it up.
And to add to my last response, you don't set boundaries with words....you set them with actions. Don't say ANYTHING to her, just start employing the rules of engagement above.
And a word of caution, she will start to declare emergencies when there is no emergency. If you didn't call her back she might have eventually sent a text saying: "Please call me, it is an emergency."
If that happens, the second you realize it is not am emergency you end the call:
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Her: oh hey, your son has been torturing me these whole 3 days. Driving me crazy... You: This is the emergency? I have to go. In the future, do not tell me there is an emergency unless there is. -hangup-
You have a very bad WW. You are going to struggle until you learn the art of hanging up on her. Do not say bye. Do not wait for her to say bye, just hangup.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
