So true. I was ill yesterday and in bed most of the day. H showed more concern than usual...and at one point it came out why. He was concerned that his being here in the home is what was causing me to stay in bed all day. I wanted to say that it isn't that he is here, but yes, his blowing up my life does affect my health. But I didn't want to engage with that conversation. It would lead to R talks. Maybe a part of me is dreading all the packing and preparations I need to do even if some other part of me is so ready to get on with it. My digestion is messed up, I've had strange rashes, and then headaches and migraines. So even if I am functioning and acting strong and doing self-care, my body is still acknowledging that what I am going through is hard and stressful. So hard to get where his head is at and I know not to try to make sense of it, but it still bugs me.
Stress has a negative impact on health and I am glad you brought all of this up. This is another reason I am such a stickler for the LBS getting into IC. To work through all of this, to help manage the stress, to have an outlet where they can address issues and concerns. We have one poster here that had such a strong reaction to her husband cheating on and leaving her that she started to lose handfuls of hair....and yet still refused to get IC.
This forum is great. I loved it from the moment I discovered it a few weeks into my sitch. But this forum is no substitute for IC.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
