Steve_'s Journey forward

[Steve_]

So she calls me at work earlier. This is atypical so I return the call once I can step off the unit. I ask her what’s up?
She says oh hey, your son has been torturing me these whole 3 days. Driving me crazy... and I said “well he is 7” that’s what they do” and she said something else complaint wise about having to mom alone. I could hear the news on in the background and I wanted to stop the complaining about my son so I said “so is that the news is something going on?” She said “no” so I replied “well.. watching the evening news hmm what are you 55 now? Going to watch jeopardy next?” She laughed and then I said “I need to go, I’m on a new unit, I have to get back inside and make a good impression here, so I can get more shifts” she asked if I would call in the next day and watch my son and offered $300. I said “no, I’m not getting in trouble” and said “got to go” and hung up.

Bout 30 minutes later she texts me a photo of her feet in front of the TV with jeopardy on. (Last show on earth she would watch). I just replied about 45 minutes later with a thumbs up.

I don’t want to have to do some “don’t contact me angmore” thing to where it’s some emotional issue. I just want to contact less and less until she gets the hint I don’t want to talk. So far she is not getting it and I have been short, and fast to end it. Not coming over, and I NEVER reach out to her. It seems she is testing to see if I will continue to be indifferent toward her. Before I would say something affectionate or nonsense like that. Been since coming back from AZ I am as minimal as possible. Civil, polite, absolute minimal as I can be without total ignoring. I would completely ignore but it seems like that will cause drama I don’t want to deal with. I reply when I get around to it, with a minimum response and longer and longer each time. I am trying to detach without making some big no more contact boundary but it seems like if this keeps up I will have to do that.

I prefer when I don’t hear from her at all. It’s easier. I just don’t want the drama.

I am gettint ready to go out with guy friends from work to a local place that I put off forever. I work tomorrow so nothing crazy but I just want to feel good about moving forward and each time I get anything from her it sinks my feels for a second.

And as far as the counseling goes I have done my appointment this week and the dude said I am doing good with this plan did remaining Indifferent and not initiating contact.