(((Wolf))). So sorry you are going through this. I echo what KML warned you about. Texts last forever and you have no control over who sees them once they leave your phone so be careful what you write. Also...don’t get caught up in the reasons for your daughter’s stance at the moment. In terms of preserving your relationship with her, it doesn’t matter if it is your ex or the milkman. The result is the same if you try to force her. She will just see it as not respecting her boundary. Remember...feelings change. It is this way right now. It will not always be this way if you don’t add fuel to the fire.
RE: custody. I think this is a concept that really only applies when the kids are little and don’t have a lot of choice in the matter. However, after a certain age, it doesn’t matter if you have custody or not, the youth will eventually live where they want to live. You can fight it if you want and you may win the battle but ultimately, you will lose the war because your relationship will suffer. The best thing for you to do is keep the door open by initiating low-pressure contact on a regular basis (even if it is just sending an emoji with “thinking of you”or sending a joke). You want to keep the connection without it always being so emotional. Just a “hiya..what’s up?” I fully believe she will eventually come around. Best of luck Wolf!!!
