I understand that you want to speak to your daughter, but if she is reluctant to do so, why not just text? Isn't some form of communication better than none? DV and R2C both gave you some very specific things to say via text which are great and I'm sure you could come up with other things too. Pushing her to speak on the phone and repeatedly telling her that is what you want when she clearly isn't responding to that particular mode of communication is serving no purpose other than to push your daughter further away because you are not respecting her boundary.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids