"I won't be funding a petition for divorce I did not want" is more complicated. Are you sure you don't want this? My understanding of your last messages is you wanted it but you wanted her to do it so the responsibility for giving up was forever clear and now you're getting your wish, that if she responded "Okay, I can wait a little longer" you'd continue in this purgatory-like limbo state and be disappointed.
I guess what I meant was, I never wanted to get divorced in the first place. She's the one who stepped out of the marriage, not me. Now (as in today), I'm fine with the divorce because I realize she's a totally different person now--a complete stranger I don't recognize.
