New M, new WAW

[mako]

Definitely Steve. I think the LBS often feels "I need to know where we stand!" They are at a point of low confidence and self esteem after facing this massive rejection, and want reassurances. The WAS who is sorta in, sorta out isn't able to reassure and isn't going to answer that in a positive way because it's too smothering, if a choice is forced it's easier to just be out. Anyway, being so needy for such reassurances just looks weak, the opposite of how the LBS wants to be. The strong way to think is "I'm going to live my life, and if you want to come along with me please do." For now I'm going to live in my house and enjoy it, and she can be a part of that to some extent if she chooses. If circumstances change, if she wants to be more in or totally out, then I'll reevaluate. Coasting and observing is the way to go right now.