She is still quarantining, probably coming out tomorrow as she has been better. I have of course been unable to do any GAL activities other than taking the kids to playgrounds and such a few times. Fortunately it's been nice out most of the time. I do have plans on Saturday assuming she is well enough to be out of quarantining and take on the kids.
I would say that I've been less distant than the full on DBing period, but definitely not all in. I wouldn't say I've been pursuing, though I have been available...she's stuck in a single room though so it's a weird situation. I have no desire to push her away before she can even think about coming back to me.
We talked on the phone for about an hour one night. Just mundane stuff mostly, but that was nice. Not something we had really done for a long time in the MR. In hindsight I probably should have ended it first but it naturally ended with Son's bedtime. She called me, I have not called her or initiated any texting conversations. I think I instinctively knew not to be pushy right now. One day she opened her 2nd floor window and talked to us while we were playing outside, talking about plans for the garden and yard--just a few days earlier we were planning to be gone from this house within 60 days so that's pretty positive. Of course there is a long way to go.
Anyway, we will see how tomorrow goes. I will remain on mostly DBing behavior until I can see where she is, which I realize might take some time. And yeah, validation remains very important, and maintaining everything positive that I'm doing for me.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
