New Beginnings Pt 3

[CanBird]

Just when I thought there couldn't be more to this story, my MIL drops a bomb of her own.

MIL is staying at the house. D4 adores her. Love her, we're close. She seemed a bit upset after a long phone call she had with her husband. I offered my ears & shoulders to her, as she's been there for me so much with my stuff. At first she was hesitant, "you've been through enough...I don't want to add to it." I gave D4 some screen time so the adults could talk in private. I assured her it was okay to share if she wanted to and she did.

MIL filed for divorce from her husband of many years..over 20 for sure. Maybe over 25.. He's husband number three. She also talked about moving to my area, and exH thought that'd be wonderful. They could have a place together. Her permanent and him transiant I'm assuming (his gf is in EU..if that's still a thing). Who knows. She has an elderly mother though that relies heavily on her.

Besides that BD, we shared our concerns about exH. MIL witnessed the ugly side of his MLC/WAS colors. She shared how his behavior was distant and he was not himself while they were together with D4. I wasn't surprised, but saddened that he wasn't fully there for D4. Thank goodness for gma.

I took this opportunity to open up the doors for her to ask me questions about what happened with exH & I. And we talked about his pA a bit. I shared things exH said about himself never being truly happy ever in his life. I didn't share all of what exH said, as it had to do with her, but I felt it was important to share. ExH said to me he's still not happy. He could be yanking my chain, but MIL and his family see it too. I can't help him, but I'm always here to listen. I told him I don't hate him. I don't like what he did, but I don't hate him.

So he continues to play the unhappy victim, or maybe he's mentally struggling. Both? Not my husband. His family and friends can step up and coddle him.

Oh! I took a phone call from exH close friend and updated him. Didn't mention the affair, but heavy hinted. I still have business to do with exH, so I don't want to poke the bear too much.