I resent, a bit, the implication that I (and other LBSs who reconcile) have pretzeled my own morals to allow for forgiveness, and that those actions somehow reflect on my own character for the worse. Or that I'm living in some fantasy la-la land, pretending my H is really not so bad but really will spend the rest of my life fearfully waiting for the other shoe to drop, all simply because I didn't choose D and am trying to make myself feel better about that decision.
So to go on record I am not in this camp. Humans make mistakes. I made my fare share. I am for reconciliation under certain circumstances even if there was an affair. I have posted many times what IMO there must be for a true reconciliation. I got lumped in with Scout although my views are clearly different.
My opinion about your friend doesn't change. Amazing people do not do those things to their so called best friend.
I find it interesting May that you are always giving us your resume. Because you have a master in psychology does your opinion have more validity?
Originally Posted by may22
My FIL has had his brain consumed by Fox News and has become a suspicious and bitter soul.
This sadly has happened to my mother. I wish there was something we could do about it.
