Yes, help or don't help, it's bizarre he chose to chill with her and converse in this way. So many logical ways to approach this. E.g., my ex-GF would help her in-laws on the condition her ex not be present.
Originally Posted by Steve_
Absolutely not. I will not be disrespected or talk about this in front of the kids and neither will she.
You don't control what she says to the kids. You control what you say to them.
Originally Posted by Steve_
I know this is what it is, its not my fault, its not me deserving this, this is on her and her crazy need for attention from multiple facets because of her own problems that I cannot ever fix or be good enough to be the only man in her life.
Steve, it is your fault you're in this situation--this is on you and your crazily low self-esteem. If someone puts their hand in a mental patient's cell and gets bitten, they are a victim. If they do it 7x in a row and even give the mental patient treats for doing so--we realize both people could use treatment. This has nothing to do with whether you hope the patient will get better, whether you feel compassion for the patient, etc. Over and over we recommend your best way to a healthy, happy life for you and your kids is to stop interacting with her and prioritize therapy. You keep posting unhealthy interactions, and declaring you don't discuss them here in advance, because you don't want to be talked out of them. There are plenty of therapists who would see you same-day (locally or online) and we've established you have $$$ for a 1st session or 1st month.
