The forum helped me slowly open my eyes to what’s going on here. It was 11 years of this and I didn’t understand how F’f up it was. To me this kind of stuff happened and people just kept it quiet and moved along. Now I realize it’s much worse than I thought. And I realize I have a lot of value and made a lot of mistakes as a man that I need to work on as far as being comfortable being me and expecting fair treatment in an R.
As I said the moving was the last interaction I needed to have and regardless of various opinions here I was going to help them move. They have been absolutely nothing but good and supportive to me and my kids. They bend over backwards anytime we ever needed anything at all. Just because my WW wants to be an attention seeking teenager doesn’t mean I will cut them out of my life and not be there for them when they need it in return.
Popular on this board? No. But I made that choice and if this is about saving M’s and nobody believes mine is savable then what’s the difference? I’m not playing games anymore. I’m doing what I believe is right and not accepting anything less than what I feel I deserve. That is what I learned from this board. And I will continue on with that.
Also LH, since I sort of voiced my opinion in the R melee the fam had she has apologized, offered to spend time with me and promised she isn’t seeing anyone. Gave me many reassurances that she is returning and will do better (Now that’s all BS) but since that argument that’s what has happened. No actions just words but again, I hold very very very little hope she can put the rubber to the road and not just say what is minimum to keep that option of me open if the next OM doesn’t pan out. That’s the reality and I see it.
Thanks for everything all of you. I am doing much better But I got a long ways to go.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
