New Beginnings Pt 3

[CanBird]

I'll talk about the car later....OH what a week this has been (more like a few months). I did consult with a lawyer, so I did my do diligence there. The end result; paperwork was signed and escrow will open in about a week, when I start my NEW gov job. It'll take some time of course, as we know for Escrow to close, so that will be my final duck! BIG duck will have at least 1 form to sign, which will have to be done remotely as he will be back at sea. ugh... can this be any more complicated! OH right! If your ex is MCL/WAS they like it to be that way for you. Thankfully, the notary I know can do this remotely! YAY!

I was really beaten down my last post, and rightly so. For the record, I'll have my 2nd IC session on Friday. exH just kept pulling the rug out from me. I've been trying to negotiate with him since February via email. Like pulling teeth! Then we finally talk face to face last week and come to some kind of verbal agreement, but we have to agree to the letter. Of course exH didn't like the verbiage and had to have it HIS way, dismissing what I needed. It was exhausting going back and forth with him, via text and not all at once...many periods of silence and him refusing to even take a call and talk. SO frustrating, but that part is over.

We we're suppose to go met with a notary on Tuesday before 5pm... exH cancelled at 4:30pm, because he felt pressured, but booked a notary for the next day. I was SO angry, and felt defeated, just like exH wanted it to br. Almost like he was dangling the carrot in front of me and pulling it away over and over and over.

Yesterday morning, exH and I worked remotely again to finish up one last detail. Again, via text, he would not take my call. I finally asked via text, "why do you hate me so such?" That got a remorseful reaction from him and we were able to finish up and talk on the phone. SO frustrating! It was like he was a hammer and I was a nail. Belittling remakes via text one after the other trying to make me think I'm an idiot.

So, we agree. I did have to bend a lot and reword things to suit his needs, but it says what it needed to say. In the end it's my decision to agree or disagree and I have to live with it. And I'm okay with it. I go to leave the house and I see he's calling. I ignore him, as I'm going to be driving and don't want to be late.

Minutes later at the notary location, I return his call, and he said, "My car was stolen, can you come here, I rebooked our appt for later, I'm on hold with the police." WOW didn't see that duck coming! KARMA duck? That was my first thought (and my Step-MiL text me the same thing... karma). So I go to exH, he's about to loose his mind and then he starts having problems with his cell phone and calls are not coming in. OH double bad Karma! It was so weird.

We leave, get to our appt location early and go have a beer. I wasn't going to but opted for the smallest size. ExH grew more frustrated with all that was going on with him and was so short with me. At that moment I was thankful NOT to me married to that kind of person anymore. Such an angry person. We made it to the appt, and of course he found more things to get frustrated about. One being using my version of our agreement, I gave it one last try and he protested. At least we signed and got that part over with.

I didn't feel any victory in having that done, because I know there is one more thing he has to sign and he'll be at sea for that and it's not that easy, but it's not difficult and can be done. It's just another thing that's out of my control. UGH...

Any way. After signing he had phone calls to make and wanted to get food from D4 & gma. I was invited to eat with them, so I did. I stayed with them the rest of the evening, until exH finished up with the police. There was video footage of the thieves at very late hours ... D4's new car seat was in there, so getting a replacement. Luckily I have my own for my vehicle. Always good to have 2. D4 is sad her dad's car got stolen. If it gets recovered great, and if it doesn't exH gets payment for it. Interesting that he just worked on it, and changed the tires (put old ones on) and now it's gone. At first I thought, really? No way this happened. Did he have anything to do with it? I don't know. But there is video footage of someone pulling up, and another getting out and driving away with his vehicle, middle of the night. And he leaves the state today, and will be a sea... unreachable at most times... for 7 months...

Today I am returning to the condo where they are to get D4 & gma and there things. Gma will be staying at our house for another week. I'm looking forward to spending time with her and will try not to talk too much about her son. exH ask if I would come early and have breakfast with them... OH now were nicely nice...

My new job starts the day after gma leaves. It's remote, so I'll be home and D4 will be with nanny. Still have to figure out how that'll work. Nanny is fine with whatever works for me. SO blessed to have her in our lives.

Almost time for the sun to rise.