A year on and standing 2

[SteveLW]

The problem with the "it's my house" thing is that it is her house too. So technically she can have her friend over even if you don't like her friend. But I guess asking them to leave is a way to try to handle it, but if she refuses then you could have an escalation on your hands.

As far as three years waiting, wow. That's a long time. Life is too short, in my opinion, to wait for someone that long. MLC fog can last the rest of her life. In fact, some MLCs aren't MLCs at all, they are a complete change of who someone is. They become the person that they are permanently. But it your life, so if that's how long you want to wait, so be it.

I applaud you putting your kids first. But remember this, kids would rather be from a broken home than in a broken home.