My 20/20 glasses have convinced me that what we should be looking for is someone that is crazy about us, not that we are crazy about.
Once upon a time, I dated a woman who was crazy about me for 5yrs, and I don't recommend that, either. I knew I was settling, I wondered what was out there, and eventually, I found the courage to leave.
Originally Posted by Steve
he prioritized how much she loved him over looks.
I hope he didn't settle so much as find beauty in her that others overlooked--soulful eyes, generous affection, a playfulness or sensuality about her that makes him smile. I have a chubby friend who's married to a model-like woman--they were best friends for years and she fell for his character. We miss much swiping profiles or on first coffee dates. I doubt I have it all figured out, but my criteria for my next partner are like so--
Attraction: 7+/10 Values: Loyal, Kind, Active, Affectionate How do I feel around them? What do they bring out in me?
