A year on and standing 2

[LH19]

Less in Feb this year, she invited a friend whom she claimed she had discontinued contact with to our place that crossed my boundaries. This friend of hers was someone whom supported her EA back and I confronted my wife about it. She claimed that she invited her as she felt she was not an involved party but I made my stand to her. Such person are not welcomed.

So this sounds more controlling then a boundary. So what were the consequences of her crossing that boundary?

Then things went back to "norm" and in March I celebrated her birthday with the kids.

Cake eating so I assume she enjoyed the cake.

She laid out 2 options to me. Either we carry on status quo, and divorce years later when the kids grow up, or we divorce and stay under the same roof and bring the kids up together.

Sorry W but neither of thos options work for me.

I've got to move on. I got to have my own life.

I agree!

I ain't gonna be still standing here anymore.

So what is your plan?

She keep saying that she want a divorce with me to put a closure to our relationship and after that she can talk to me normally like a friend. Then she claims that I am stopping the divorce as I am not allowing overnight access of kids to her and taking the kids away from her than we originally agreed on shared access. I told her I came to that conclusion as she had emotionally threatened my kid till he almost killed himself and thus, I am standing firm on this.

I am confused by what you mean.

I told her if she really want to divorce, just serve to my lawyer. She then claim she had done so previously which I mentioned I had not receive any notification from my lawyer? Then she said it was the draft that was prepared by her lawyer's admin that she emailed to me. I told her please, just forward the proper version to my lawyer and not something by someone unqualified which I could draft even better than.

This sounds like a useless conversation

Next she start to bring out all the nonsense form the past again which I got so tired of and after some minor exchange with her, I told her I am tired. Just wish to rest on a positive mood and these exchanges are pointless. Before she left the room, she asked me so what is the conclusion of this talk? I told her I leave it to her. Then she mentioned that our counsellor offered to mediate for our divorce if we need her to and walked out.

This sounds like a useless conversation

TS your situation sounds horrible and I think it may be time for you to push the D through or separate. IHS is brutal and soul sucking and it sounds like it is taking it's toll on you.