I am not detached, Pack19 part4

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Pack great update! Love the crossfit. Keep up the good work.

On the job, as a manager I can tell you that HR departments are forever pressuring us to have an equal distribution of low achievers, mid-achievers and high achievers. It drives me nuts. They talk about a bell curve, and rating people in relation to each other. It is maddening. I've resisted giving any of my employees a low-achiever just because they aren't going above and beyond like others might. I say all that to say maybe your boss is under the same pressure? And the new employee is an easy target.

As far as the L, like most things in life you get what you pay for. I always chuckle at advertisements for corrective eye surgery where they are bragging about their low rates. The last thing I want when it comes to eye surgery is a budget surgeon! And you should take the same tact with a D L. Extra cost up front could save you thousands of dollars later. I applaud you for not just sitting back and sticking with your current L out of ease. It amazes me how humans will shop around for the best price on a car or TV, but then just take the first L that comes along.

Well done, sir!

Hi Steve!

Thanks for the post, yes I talked about the bell curve with a friend that is in a similar situation, he works for Boeing, and my manager has reiterated that the important thing is how satisfied she is with me and the progression she can see in me. However, it was still hard to listen to that feedback in a moment when all was coming on me and it reminds me that if I let this situation continue damaging me as a man there will come a day when I could lose my job and I have children that depend on me. I guess I am an easy target, new team member, made some rookie mistakes last year but I wanted to ask for an improvement in my salary and now I do not see that happening, even if she has told me these things are independent. Sometimes it is hard to understand because as you point out, I dont see the conversations between HR and managers. Thanks for offering me your experience.

About the L, I only want someone to understand that after this covid situation is over I have a life I want to take back and it means being able to work in the office from time to time and that will not come for free. I do not care if the cost is higher, I am not hurt by the fact that I pay more than usual given our finances, it pains me that she is not using that for the best of our children.

Thanks for the post and the encouragement Steve! I will keep you updated!