Nah. There’s a misunderstanding- this isnt trauma bonding.
And I’m interested because I’m interested - she’s interesting. So is Kristi and Christine. Maybe I should be hanging with the fellas, i don’t know. But Jill is different. And I agree about rushing. I’ve brought this up in IC. For better or worse, I don’t get the feeling he thinks I’m rushing. I’m scared and aware of rushing, so I’ll probably take too much time, that feels more likely in a weird way. I don’t know.
And maybe divorce In a second marriage isn’t about people not doing the work; maybe instead they understand their value and don’t put up with BS as long - i know i won’t again.
On the A-Hole thing, I’m aware, that’s the first step. I did invite her in out of the cold to sit in my car. I just don’t cowtoe or placate her.
On this girl - she called off her wedding on her wedding day after dealing with some stuff. She wanted to see it through but the night before the wedding he made it clear he was not going to be a good partner. I can’t fault someone for the courage t took to call Something off as opposed to making a huge mistake.
And LH has a point, is marriage even the “goal”? I’m not so sure-one day at a time.
R2C is spot on in my opinion. I’m learning a lot about myself through interactions with other women. And I’m learning a lot about why my marriage didn’t work, what I want and need, what I like, etc.
