You doing nothing Is “allowing her to go sow her wild oats”?!!
Actually, it’s quite the opposite. Everything you have been doing is showing you are quite fine with it. She does whatever she wants and you ask her on dates and buy her $100 bottles of wine, and celebrate holidays with her and take family pictures. So basically you say “ do whatever, I’ll still be right here pining for you, not living your life, and making all decisions for myself based upon you.
However, no matter what you do, she will do exactly what she wants.
Just like you need to stop waiting for her moves to dictate how you live your life.
We really can’t help you here Steve. You keep trying to fool us, fool her, fool yourself.
The only thing that can help you is intensive psychiatric help . I understand you are a veteran, but I also understand you are employed with health benefits. Use them. Use them now.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
