Just a super quick post to say that today I learned my ex and his wife (she was his affair partner) divorced a few months ago.
In his typical dysfunctional fashion, I assume he swore the kids to secrecy against saying anything to me. He kept his wedding and divorce a secret from me. These folks are weird and live much of their lives in the shadows.
S15 made JV basketball and games just resumed a few weeks ago. Ex sits very far from me but the last two games he came over to a wall near me and when he leaned against it I noticed he was not wearing his wedding ring. (He was wearing it pre Covid. I have not seen him for a about a year due to Covid lockdowns.). At the next game, he came over to that same wall towards the end of the game and no wedding ring again. That’s when I thought something was up.
My sister-in-law texted me and I mentioned he was not wearing a ring and she said told me they were divorced a few months ago. She overheard ex’s conversation with his brother (my ex).
The saddest thing is he uses a lot of scare tactics and my kids have not said a word about it. I want to talk to them about this. I feel so bad for all the craziness he has introduced into their lives.
Guess it wasn’t all rainbows and lollipops over there. What a shock that a marriage founded on an affair lasted so short a time. Not sure they even made it to the 2 year mark...
Anytime he passes me at s’s games he looks at the ground. He makes zero eye contact with me. He really blew everything up for her. He told me she was “an honorable woman” when he did finally tell me he married. Yeah. Suuuuure. Wink, wink. Two lost souls that attracted each other.
It ain’t all peaches and cream for them...
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
