ately I been strongly feeling like I should ask her to move this along, that I dont want to wait around to be replaced
Asking her to do it for you implies you’re incapable, and begs the question why she should do you that favor. If you want to D, call a lawyer or read a Nolo press book, and make it happen.
Also, stop waiting. Get in IC to fix your issues, stop interacting with her with these non-essential “essential” childcare interactions for a few months, and make your solo life grand.
