Funny how that happens. A very good sign of our healing, letting go, and acceptance.
XH is in a rough place in life right now. Hit by car?!? A two day late apology text and missing his drop off time and visit. It sure does gets weird.
As kml said, document everything.
Originally Posted by wooba
I think I'm alarmed because I've been a SAHM for so long. and all the sudden work has now taken over my life (time wise). I've dreamed about work!! (gasp) , so it all feels very odd to me. I've also gotten invited to join Fri after work outings with colleagues, which I actively try to participate (even though most of the time I just want to go home and spend time with the kids.) I think the thought of myself possibly could focus too much on pursuing my career/having a life outside of kids is a bit scary to me. I can do it because I feel they're in good hands with my parents' help. Am I making sense here? Do men think about this? or are we gals the only ones stuck with having to figure out how to balance work and kids? lol.
Gasp! Dreaming about work. Lol.
The sudden take over of work in your life is normal. Dreams are our subconscious categorizing and making sense of our day. Of course you dreamt of work. By the way, if you are a scrabble enthusiast, dreamt is one of the few words that end in “mt”. No bearing whatsoever upon what we are talking about. I might be subconsciously exercising liberties due to your suggested book writing for me post retirement. That, and you have an infectiously fun feel to your post. Anyhow, yes men do think about family and work and the balance between the two.
From SAHM to present situation is quite a change. It’s ok to focus on you. And yes, your kids are in good hands. And yes, it will feel odd for a while.
Congratulations being invited out with the work gang. Do go and have fun. It is surprising how much team building happens over a beer - every now and then.
It is good to see you cognizant of the limited time and your choices (worry) in how you invest that time - kids, work, self, and such. A wee tip, if I may - self, kids, work, and so on. That’s the order. And don’t worry when kids seem often before self, for it is our very self that wants that so in effect we are placing self first. Like everything it’s a balance.
Feeling a bit scared is pretty normal. My sudden being dropped into sole parental duties and responsibility was rather scary too. We find our balance and our way; and fear/worry abates.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
That, and you have an infectiously fun feel to your post. Anyhow, yes men do think about family and work and the balance between the two.