The difference in H’s behaviour is pretty interesting. How he approached and conferred during the performance reviews is quite a change. And it is good to see him calling and talking to the kids.
It is also interesting to see H reaching out to his father. Most folks have unfinished business with their parent(s). We all must rebel a certain amount as we stand on our own feet, leaving adolescence and entering adulthood. One usually at some point makes peace and seeks to repair from their rebelling.
A crisis person has their past trauma(s), present rebelling, and so many other transgressions to make peace with. They have to start somewhere which is from the least to most significant person and the hurt they inflicted. From pets, friends, parents, kids, to spouse. (More or less the order). H is talking to his kids and to his Dad. He is even behaving nicely during school conferences.
You wisely know H’s path is his to travel, and are letting him. Keep it up. He will most likely turn more to you in the next while - if he has it in himself. Dig for patience my girl. Pressure-free and let him lead his path. All while you live/love your life.
I’m glad you found and read Grace’s thread. She’s a great gal and one heck of an inspiring person.
By the way, do not sell yourself short in that department. You are doing really well and quite the inspiration also. Exceptional situations birth exceptional people.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
