I feel SO confident at times, but get flustered and feel... well stupid. Okay, that's the wrong thing to say! I'm not very experienced when it comes to negotiations. Especially my house! THAT"S HUGE!! Why do I feel like this man has control over me? Maybe because I allow myself to think that. Like I'm coming against an opponent that usually outwits me. I do feel like I've come along way. I've just got to write down some points, and practice my preach. You know, like you do before a job interview. Role play... ..
By the way, when I go into an interview, I am who I am. I do not role play. Be well prepared and be yourself. In this situation, be your intellectual business self and get the deal done. You can let out those emotions after.
When I do presentations I like to do up a script with all my key points outlined just like you describe that you've done. That way when I inevitably get pulled off track, I have that to fall back on and to make sure they get covered.
Think of it as a business meeting vs role play perhaps ....
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Yes, definitely discuss it in front of his mom, she may be your ally in this process. Maybe even have the discussion with her in the next room if possible? I just have the feeling he won't be quite as unreasonable with his mom in earshot.
D4 is enjoying her time with her dad & gm. I'm catching up on things and barely doing anything fun. IC session this afternoon. It'll be my first one. Still attempting to get exH agree on a moment to discuss the house. I'm tired of waiting for him.
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I am glad that D4 is enjoying her time with her dad and gm. She'll have a lot to talk about when she is back home and hopefully some very good memories to reflect back on when they are gone once again.
Good luck w/the IC this afternoon. I'm sure you'll find the right moment to get your xh to sit down to discuss the house. Do you think he's avoiding you because he knows you want to discuss this issue? Sometimes they don't want to discuss separating property, etc., because it is the last thread to the person that they walked away from. It's difficult to understand how their minds work...but some do think this way. I hope and pray that a time should open up for that discussion this weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oooh - accountability to a higher authority - you play dirty ....
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
In fact, ask XMIL in front of him - "Hey, XMIL, exH and I have some paperwork to deal with so that I can buy him out of the house - what's a good time for him and me to do that and you to entertain granddaughter while we do? Maybe you could (bake cookies, swim in the pool, whatever around the house) while we do that. "
Sunday works....FINALLY he has agreed to a day. I've only been asking since Tuesday when they landed. Now just waiting on confirmation of place and time. For me, I don't care. Suggested here at the house in the afternoon. I will have a friend with me. My previous attempts have been made with MIL within ear shot, and I've also had a conversation with her about my intentions. exH has just been making excuses or skirting around the subject with other things that he has to take care (like his taxes).
So exH also mentioned in his text that he wanted do some work on the 2nd vehicle, incase I need to drive it. What? Interesting.
Stay tuned.
*ps- letter is drafted up & mobile notary is on speed dial.*
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
