One more thing I didn’t mention this am. Last night the three of us had dinner together for the first time in a long time. And all H could talk about was how s18 will lose the car in a few weeks and we’ll need to “deal with” the remaining vehicles, and how things will change with selling the house etc. Like that’s exciting stuff to finally sit together and discuss and look forward too. Poor kid is like, okay, that’s fine. I don’t even think it’s clicked in that when he comes back the next time he may need to start packing up his room. I have no idea even if H has a place lined up that can include his son. He’s just oblivious on how his decisions are disrupting all of our lives. It made me so angry and depressed last night.
I know I can have a place for our son until the fall at least. So I am at least taking him into account while H can’t wait to start his new life with his AP. Trying not to get sucked into his behavior and the drama but it’s so hard...especially when it comes to the kids. I wish I could make up for both of their bio parents. I’m so worried about them having healthy relationships when both of their bio parents have shown so little respect for their partners.
One day at a time. I can only control my actions.
Me 52, H 56 T10 M7, 2nd MR for both 2 Step Sons (19 and 21) BD: Fall 2020 D finalized: July 2022 XH Married AP soon after D day.