It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Dawn70]

Welcome to our little corner of the world, Wolf. I hate to disappoint LH, but I'm not going to beat you up too much either. I did go back and read through some of your threads and, oh mylanta, that is a LOT to unpack. I will say, just from what I read, my impression is that you spent a lot of time, at least a year or so ago, blaming your XW and being kind of all over the place. You spent a lot of time trying to convince everyone you are a good dad because when you have your kids, you do fun stuff with them. Honey, you know being a good dad is more than just being the fun guy. They need your time, your love, your affection, your attention, your boundaries and your discipline. They need your leadership and guidance. And, they need you and your XW both to NOT say negative things about each other. I'm not as convinced as you that your XW is poisoning your D against you and your gf because, honey, teenage girl hormones are THE WORST. Buckle up, buttercup, because it is going to be a hella bumpy ride to 18. When she gets to about 19 or 20, you will suddenly become wise again. Trust me. I married my XH when his daughters were 12, 14, and 16 and we went through it with all of them, but when they got to adulthood, we weren't so bad anymore. It is just how kids are.

My advice? Own your actions, your part of the D, your relationship with your children and your gf, and quit worrying about your XW. You can't control her or anything she does, so don't even try. It wastes energy that you could turn into a positive focus on your children and your life.

And, I totally agree with Andrew....take your time. That's just good life advice, in general.