Steve_ Facing reality Part 1.

[joejoe1]

Steve,

I have been here before. I called myself the crumb/crush eater doing the timeframe of my W being Wayward. I was like a little mouse on the lookout for my WW crumbs to drop. And than everytime I would pick up that crumb, I would be siting around waiting for a little more, for it never to come.

The only difference between you and I. I got fed up a lot quicker than you. I divorced my wife in my emotion and heart, before I had to divorce her on paper. And we were living together. I couldn't take the pain any longer. I dealt with the grief and start to go about my life. My wife crumbs were dropping and I started to look at her, smile and say no thank you. It was hard at first, because, I was so worried about her getting upset, her getting mad by my rejection. But I kept listening to the Vet's on here and the reading I was doing, and one day, I didn't care about how she felt, I starting caring more about my healing and raising my boys, than her emotions/feelings.

You are stuck in mouse mode. The more you distance your emotions from her actions and reactions, the more healing will take place for you. The more you heal, the more your logical thinking will kick in.

You asked why see keeps sending you pictures and saying nice things (those are her crumbs) because she know you are eating them up and that's her little hook in you. Stop feeding off those crumbs.