You sound very strong and positive! If you are doing the security forms for a gov't job, yes, they will take some time to fill out. I know you know this, but...be sure to keep a copy for your records.
Sounds like you've got your "ducks in a row" w/having a mobile notary on call. Your xh doesn't have a clue just how intelligent you are and ready to get everything completed.
Have you checked on line to see if you can fix the ice/water dispenser? It may be something very simple or the line could be clogged.
Your nanny is truly a blessing You have many people who are in your corner and I am happy to read that everything is coming together nicely for you.
Happy Easter to you and your little one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.