13 years

[DonH]

Just to throw in 2 more cents, from what I’ve read many of the GI and other side effects of Metformin go away on their own after a few weeks. I thought I might be up into the pre-diabetic range after suspicions my dentist had together with a few symptoms I thought I had and an over active imagination after a non-fasting finger stick of 145. I’m telling you this for a reason. I’ve never really had any issues with weight but had gotten to the top edge of the BMI for my height and for a short time into the overweight category. No one would consider me overweight. I actually thought I looked better, actually had a bit of a butt but also was getting a bit of a pouch. Anyhow the prediabetic scare has me go to diet soda, remove most breads, potatoes, rice, sweets, juices, etc. Time went quick and when it dawned on my that my pants were really loose followed by a look in the mirror and my butt had again disappeared and face seemed thin, I was shocked to have lost nearly 15 pounds without even trying. I’m back in the center of my BMI. Clearly the low carb diet works. Thankfully my A1C just came back at 5.4 so I’m not prediabetic - or if I was, the weight loss and diet change quickly solved it. I’ve put back in a bit more carbs and sweets in hopes of not losing anymore weight. A friend of mine had to go on metformin for actual diabetes mostly related to a Whipple and he though he is in Remission now for years, can’t put weight on no matter how hard he tries. He’s at the low end of BMI now. Again clearly this low carb diet thing works. Even if you go on metformin for 6 months to a year, you can come off again and may well get the side effects to diminish if you can just push through for a few weeks to maybe a month. So all in all, this could be great news!

As for your good if an ex, he just keeps showing himself to be the moron he is. He’s a kid who never grew up. He’s not an adult other than in age. Cant manage being a husband, can’t manage being a father, can’t even manage money so much that a 13 year old sees it. You just now need to see it. I was out on a date of sorts last night (long story) and one of the women in the group so reminded me of you - even looks a bit like you. Has a mouth on her for starters lol but pretty, 44, has been a nurse for nearly 25 years, seems strong, had an ex live in BF who dumped her and is scared by it. Her ex’s mother was with us and has a great R with her sons ex but not so much with her son. She knows he was not the guy for her, says she treated him great but is still really hurt by him leaving her. She 44 and a bit too young (and too alpha - she’s Sicilian) for me but otherwise seems like a great person and would be fun to go out with.

. Still I can just see how she thinks there’s something wrong with her so she can’t put herself back out there. Instead she’s thrown that part of her life into her dogs. What up with that BTW. I see more and more women who connect more with makes on 4 legs than on 2.

My point in all of this rambling is you are far more normal than you think you are. Your biggest challange is convincing yourself and putting yourself out there and not letting your past prevent you from your future. You have to keep acting as if until it becomes muscle memory. You have so much more to offer than many other women and guys do. You just have to start believing it. Dropping the weight you feel you need to drop will be another step in that journey.