Hi new member, going down this midlife crisis h*ll with my husband. Fun times. Very stereotypical though, he hasn’t technically left home but he travels a lot. He hasn’t had a physical affair. There is an emotional affair, of a sorts. She’s annoying. I wish she would crawl back in the hole she came from but ... as dumb as this sounds, she isn’t our major problem. She’s more of a symptom to what I feel is our big problem ... his job.

Literally, everything that everyone describes as being a problem (I’ve lurked here) with their spouse and their affair problem, is what my husband has experienced with his job. He’s very good at it. He gets a massive ego boost from his work. He literally works non-stop. A 100-hours a week easily on most weeks. But it’s also very dysfunctional too. He dislikes the people he works with, they are horrible. He loves his “clients” he comes in and saves the day often for them. He has all the answers. It’s a very love/hate relationship but it’s also an obsession too.

Anyway, he has lost his job very suddenly and completely unexpectedly. He is coming home and he is devastated. They talk about other woman withdrawal, I’ve read a a lot of info from another site, and this is exactly what he is going through with his former work.

I don’t know ... maybe this is just crazy. Maybe I’m just the poor wife graphing on to anything because this really has messed up our marriage and our family. And I have no idea what to expect when he gets home.

But can a job loss be similar to an affair partner loss? Can a job step in as an affair partner?

Last edited by job; 04/04/21 01:08 PM. Reason: edited language, removed reference to a creator of another site.