As Ginger said, there are a gazillion ways to meet people that don't involve dating sites. For me, that's included existing connections, social media groups, and strava (a fitness app--may not be too helpful if you're not into fitness). There's also meetup. It's easy when you're not dating because it's okay if the group is full of 20-somethings or 50-somethings, male or female, married or single. In many groups there's even a stigma to heavily flirting with or asking out group members you don't know well.
You may not be willing to date him because he's 10yrs younger, but how did you match? On most sites, it's because they found you attractive. I get that feels good. Strong KitCat doesn't need that. She's a powerful, independent woman who doesn't need any ego boost or attention to fill some void. If she knows she's not interested because he's 10yrs younger, she closes the match and adjusts her filters.
I used to have narrow filters based on age and physical characteristics, but meeting great people IRL outside my filters has made me question if I really want to filter on "height" or would rather filter on values like loyalty, compassion, determination, and sexuality. If I'm attracted? If I feel good around them and they bring out the best in me? My "criteria" is a work in progress. We'll see!
