moving forward and beyond #2

[DnJ]

Good Morning wooba

The stall in the divorce process is ok. XH and his L is acknowledging the delay and even forwarded monies without prompting. All good signs.

I’m glad work is going well. Sounds like you are doing quite a lot. Your supervisor most likely recognizes your efforts and even assigns more work. A wise quote from a friend of fellow poster AndrewP - if you need something done give it to a busy person.

That is a true statement. At work, I find myself assigning more tasks to those who keep busy than those who do not. Praise for a job well done sometimes comes from an unexpected direction; more work. Lol. My place of business places importance on formal performance feedback and I get to formally acknowledge people’s efforts and ensure their contributions are recognized. It sounds likely that your supervisor is a lady of good character and is taking you under her wing and building trust towards a good working relationship.

Lately I find myself thinking, what is my end goal here? Taking the job started out as having a means to an end - I need the financial security. Now that I'm here, what's next?

If I may, perhaps that question is not about work.

A job. Financial security. Three months. Stability taking hold. The next steps being considered are not work related or company advancement. As you stated - you are here. Work is work. It is the means to the end. It is the “end” goal that you are pondering. For what it’s worth, one’s true goals do not come from the workplace.

I find that to be an important question. I can feel that it's easy to get lost in work itself.....complete the next project, hit the next quarter's goal...I would like to continue to practice self-awareness and keep myself tethered to what I believe in.

It is an important question. Of course, it’s the answer that is even more important.

It pretty understandable to get lost in work as one is getting up to speed. We all define ourselves by our actions, thoughts, and beliefs. Our work and means of financial self sufficiency is a large part of that definition. We can feel a bit lost within that, we can even get lost within that. Three months is a short time frame for beliefs. Work actions and efforts influence our thoughts and feelings, which in turn influence our lives.

Your self-awareness and desire to keep tethered to your beliefs and values will, and is, serving you. It only feels different at the moment. You will find your important answers and overarching life goals. Of this, I have no doubt.

While at work, lose yourself, or more accurately let go yourself and be the employee and achieve those work goals. While not at work, while living, find yourself and grasp and achieve the life goals you perform “work” for.

I’ve worked for the same employer for 32 years so far. I am partly defined by my job and skillset. It has had a part in the making me who I am. Employment is a large part of our lives. That, means to an end, is valuable as well as necessary. Yet, I can, and soon will as retirement looms closer and closer, define myself sans work related. Work has influenced my life and values, and my life and values has influenced my work.

Beliefs and core values are slow to change, and one knows when they are being met and lived. If you sleep well, truly restful, at peace subconsciously, you are doing fine.

9 to 5 - embrace work. 5 to 9 - embrace life. Fully! You will sleep well.

So...

Now that I'm here, what's next?

Yes, now that you’re here - both work and life. What’s next? For each.

There are two important answers, not one.

That is a very tall order finding such answers. For what it’s worth, my answers became simple. Integrity and values. Live your beliefs on both paths; on all paths of your life. Two answers, which when boiled down, are the same thing.

D