P.S. I've obviously warn out my welcome in your threads. Please know I hope for nothing but the best for you in the future! I question if you will have the internal introspection to do what you need to do to get there, but I surely hope from the bottom of my heart that you do. That is my prayer for you KC. You've come quite a ways but sometimes the last few miles of a journey are the hardest. I hope you find the inner peace you seek.
I know my thread is long - but I asked a year ago for shared custody of the dog.
The response was "how would that work" in an annoyed tone. AND, I get it. We live an hour apart. We both spent years schlepping kids from home to home an hour apart... its wears... ALOT. So why would we do this to a dog? So I understood his response and I did not have an answer. He reaction would have been to walk away from the dog all together and I was not at a place where I could devote to 2 dogs all the time.
THE COMPROMISE WAS - I would be the one to pet sit when he left town.
We were both honoring that agreement... in a modified shared custody way.
I have no doubt if there were kids involved the dog would have been going back and forth with the kids but that is not the case for us.
I've never said you've worn out your welcome on my thread - EVER.
I'm just saying you used a really poor analogy comparing petsitting for a shared dog to me giving STBXH heroin.
I weighed ALL the pros and cons when I had full custody of the dog what it would mean if I kept the dog or allowed STBXH to have the dog. It was NO EASY DECISION.
I would never truly compare a person to that of a dog... I was trying to make the point of comparing a dog to heroin... I think you get the jest of how inappropriate that was which was the point I was trying to make.
I'm not offended by most of what you write even when it comes across harshly but the analogy you presented was super far from the mark.
