You should at least own the fact that you did ---- why else would you have made a heroin analogy in reference to me watching the dog stating I was enabling him to go to by doing so as someone who would buy another heroin.
You could have easily said I was pain shopping by agreeing to watch the dog - okay... maybe you are right.
But you said I was enabling his trip to HI - like if I hadn't watched the dog he wouldn't be able to go OR if he did go to HI because someone else bought him "heroin" I would have clean hands.
If you could tell me 100% that you would refuse to have your D come stay with you because her mother was taking a trip out of town so that you were not enabling her mother to be able to go out of town then please stop referring me as enabling a heroin addict.
I see the dog as a beautiful living creature that I raised for the first 6mo of this life. Having him in my home is certainly a joy - perhaps bittersweet given the circumstance... BUT, I'm an empty nester and these two dogs are where my heart is currently. I will do anything for this dog even if it means breaking my own heart. I truly believe that you would have provided a safe place to stay for your D even though your heart might have broke a little because her mother was having away time with a new love. AND - I would never refer to the whole thing as you are supplying heroin to her mother.
^^^^It was a poor analogy. We all make mistakes but just own it rather than trying to act like you didn't do it.
KC, I didn't compare the dog to heroin. You are entitled to your opinion on analogy, but I feel you are nitpicking something to redirect the discussion. Dogs are not children. Some treat them as such, fine. However, I don't think you'd allow your EX to take FULL CUSTODY of a child either. Yet you did with the dog. Is the dog analoguous to child or isn't it? If it is then why the heck would a mother give up custody of their child?!? (See, two can play this game.)
Whatever, you don't like he is Hawaii with his mistress, but yet you agreed to watch the dog while he went. Can't have it both ways.
As for my D, who I do not equate to a dog, I would never have agreed to anything less than 50/50 custody to being with!!!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
