Physical separation is a breeze compared to the 2 months of IHS hell that I experienced. It drove me to a pretty dark place. Having your W lie about where she is staying at night, coming home to an empty house knowing that she is at OM's, seeing your W constantly on her phone. Awful stuff.
I agree with you as I indicated above. But everyone is probably different. I'm not sure that I see the pros of IHS. Maybe as I begin to make changes W is more likely to see them, maybe if she was having second thoughts it'd be easier to R with both in the same location. But I really don't think she's going to stop prior to selling the house and D, so I don't think that is really relevant to my sitch.
I had kind of steeled myself to the idea that W might not come home last night but she ended up back at 8. I was standing next to the door talking to my S when she came in, I just said hello finished with S and went to bed. Throughout the day I actually got progressively sicker and feel like I have the flu. I got the flu shot this year, would be really angry if I get COVID about a month out from the vaccine being available. Unfortunately I was planning to go out tonight but I think that isn't going to happen.
I know it seems like I'm too focused on her, and I am. You all know how it is. Working on it.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
