To me, physical separation was far easier as far as my W was concerned. Maybe a little bit of out of sight out of mind, I don’t know. I certainly thought about her and my sitch but I think the distance was helpful. The rest of it was harder, but that was more due to not being at home.

With IHS the sitch and her are just in my face all day. Working from home doesn’t help but that can’t be changed.

Separation where I’m home and she’s gone seems better, but if she doesn’t leave I have no legal basis to kick her out. So either I leave or live with IHS.


Me: 43 W: 41
Together 2009, Married 2011
Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5
Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021