Thank you all for your comments and kind words. I have fallen back into doing all the wrong things. Today I will stand strong. I will focus on Me and my kids. My kids are adults my 19 year old I can see is struggling with this as well. We talked last night a bit. I gave her what she has been bugging me for on splitting up our belongings, We had property we listed for sale with a relator and our house was appraised so we have an idea of what we can expect if we list or one of us keeps it. We have almost 4 months before final court date so Im not pushing or rushing anymore. Ball is in her court on how she wants to proceed. I am going to focus on the 180 and rebuild myself
Adult kids sometimes have a harder time with D than minor kids do. In fact, that is how MWD got into the marriage, anti-divorce business is that her parents D'd when her and her siblings were adults, and she was stunned, saddened, and devastated by it. The end of MR with kids involved is never easy on anyone, regardless of the ages of the kids. So I applaud you for wanting to do all you can to hold things together. But the problem is that the WAS has just as much say in the keeping of the MR, or the dissolution of it as you do. 2 to make a marriage, 1 to make a D. So focus on you!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
