I gave her what she has been bugging me for on splitting up our belongings, We had property we listed for sale with a relator and our house was appraised so we have an idea of what we can expect if we list or one of us keeps it. We have almost 4 months before final court date so Im not pushing or rushing anymore. Ball is in her court on how she wants to proceed. I am going to focus on the 180 and rebuild myself
Re: this part, I don't have enough info here, but make sure you know that DBing and 180ing does not mean being a doormat and giving up things you are entitled to just to appease your STBXW in the D proceedings. Again I know I don't have the facts but the first sentence that I quoted just gave me pause. But sure, there is a cost-benefit analysis here and being agreeable and even giving up a little in a compromise might make sense rather than paying lawyers 100s of dollars an hour to hash things out.
And yes, do your best to support your kids. Even adult kids will need help dealing with this, and that's part of your job as a parent. Other than that your job is to work on you.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
