New M, new WAW

[mako]

Sorry man, I know this stuff is difficult and it is easy to know what to do, but harder to DO what you know to do. Been there and done that!

I think as you elude to, that if you had stated your case "I will not sit here while you message other guys" and walked out that would have been fine. Make your case, end the discussion.

Where we as DBers always make our mistake is in saying too much.

Talking RARELY solves anything. This is what I am trying to DBX80 to see. ACTION not words. So many DBers default to the LBS mistake of trying to talk their way out of what they acted their way into. It doesn't work.

Very true. Talk is cheap. W told me that a little while back and she's right. The other spouse doesn't want to hear anything once it gets to this point, so nothing good is going to come out of it anyway.

This stuff is tough. That is why there are so few recons right away.
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Think of the touching the hot stove analogy.

Yep. Takes a lot of work and focus. I think touching the stove twice in two days has me covered for a while. I had felt like I was going along pretty decently before this weekend. It's easy to do well for 90some % of the time and then backslide, just gotta get back to it.

The good news is that you know you will survive. It will take some time.

This is the benefit of being here once before. I don't know when, but I know at the end of the day it'll be alright.