Out of the corner of my eye I see she keeps glancing at her phone and then I can see her typing on what appears to be Bumble. There it is.
And there it is.
Originally Posted by mako
I tell her "I'm going to go, you're going to do what you want but I'm not going to sit here in the same room with you while you chat with other guys, I have too much self respect for that.
No words necessary. Next time just walk away.
Originally Posted by mako
She apologized and said that was fair, she is not sleeping with anyone, she isn't emotionally or physically available to anyone right now, she just likes to talk and there are a lot of nice people who have gone through the same thing.
Oh yeah. So the new panties aren't for you, I wonder who they can be for? Hmmmm.....
Originally Posted by mako
And I'm sure these guys joined a dating app just looking to have a nice little supportive talk.
spit my coffee
Originally Posted by mako
If it had ended there it would have been fine, but we ended up in a R talk. It was actually a decent talk for a while but ended up with too much rehashing of stuff. I know exactly how to DB but when I'm in the moment I just don't follow through.
This stuff is tough. That is why there are so few recons right away.
Originally Posted by mako
Lesson learned (AGAIN). Do not hang out as if you're friends. Do not hang out as if you're friends. Nothing good will come of it. This is not going to happen anymore. If I'm home I will hang out with the kids or with myself. I don't need her to help me spend my time.
Think of the touching the hot stove analogy.
Originally Posted by mako
Yesterday we did not hang out at all. She texted me while I was outside playing with the kids that she is going out on Tuesday and Friday (why she couldn't just tell me, who knows). So I responded that I am going to go out Wednesday and Saturday. So good, I have plans, though I'm not sure what they are yet.
Great!
Originally Posted by mako
Today I went to IC. It was good to get some things off my chest. We talked a little about detaching and letting go and we agreed that was something I needed to do. I'd like to think I am finally ready. TBH it's a lot harder when you're under the same roof, but I'll get there.
IHS while a spouse is fooling around is soul sucking.
The good news is that you know you will survive. It will take some time.
