A good father isn’t about going fishing and “watching” the kids. It’s exactly as LH says. A good father protects their kids, teaches them , sets examples and is a role model.
What do you think you are teaching them right now? What are you role modeling? Are you protecting them, emotionally and physically ? Is your primary focus on their well being? Because it seems to be more on your W from where I sit. What’s she thinks about your posts, how they made her mad. ( even thinking that her bad mood had to do with your posts says it all. You have no clue why she’s mad( but you are so hyper focus on your posts and how they affect her. And why she can even see them is beyond me)
As yourself those questions as a parent. Answer them truthfully and honestly. Like take the time and write it out. Take the time you would be posting on Media to show the world whatever and answer those questions for yourself. I don’t even care to know the answers. But you should.
The last thing ever in this world I would like to do is parental judging. But this is the hardest read ever. I read and I couldn’t give 2 sh!ts about your ex, but these kids are caught in the crossfire of the most unhealthy dynamic I have seen in these boards. And they are so far from either of your focus. I have never taken a job so seriously in my life as parenting . I’ve messed up, no doubt. But every move I make in this world I ask myself, how will this affect my daughter? What am I teaching her? What am I modeling for her? Am I acting in her best interest? That’s where my intentions always are, even when I do mess up as a parent. And I always strive do better next time and learn from my mistakes
Do you feel you are doing this for your kids? What are you doing to learn from your mistakes? How you carry yourself, interact with your ex, what you allow in your life will have a bearing on the people they will become. Do you feel you are acting in such a way with all of that in mind? I don’t even want to hear your answer. I want you to truthfully answer that for yourself
